Doing life with people is underrated. We don’t talk about it often because we do not understand the blessedness that comes with having a tribe or a village. We set the rules within our circle yet we quickly realize that sometimes these rules do not forge us into becoming who are destined to be. Friends fail us, life gets busy, and ultimately we are left to a life of independence. Independence teaches us how to survive as loners. Independence releases us from caring too much because caring too much might leave us scarred. Independence teaches us how to relate with our head rather than our heart. We prevent ourselves from feeling, from genuinely loving ourselves and loving others. Independence makes us believe the lie that we were configured that way- to be loners. Truth is, no one was. The greatest need of man is acceptance and belonging.
Everyone feels valued when they are accepted within their circle or space. This is just the way God made it. We were made for fellowship and for belonging. We were made to thrive in a space that allows us to be expressive, a space that flows with love and grace- the strongest forces that release us into destiny. Where do we find such spaces? Do we create them or do the exist? I discovered recently that they exist. God’s idea of the church was a place that allows us to experience the blessing of acceptance and fellowship. The church is a chosen place. It is chosen because you do not get this from just anywhere. The church is handpicked for this. Our idea about church becomes faulted when we begin to think of a church as a structure rather than a people. A people who are committed to the cause of being there for one another in times of victory and adversity. A church is that chosen place for belonging and acceptance. It is not a place for a few salutations of hallelujahs and amens. It is a place sanctified for reaching out to people (even within it) that may be hurting and seeking refuge.
We were made to thrive in a space that allows us to be expressive, a space that flows with love and grace- the strongest forces that release us into destiny.
The phrase ‘a chosen place’ hit me hard as I sat in one of our church family sessions. When he said it(I’m talking about my pastor), I realized how we’ve practiced church for too long. I realized how church hurt comes up. It is simple; people have an idea that the church is for the perfect whereas it is the opposite. Everyone else is expected to hurt them except those in the church. Sometimes we don’t realize that Jesus makes us good and by ourselves we have no good thing. Our confidence is Him and in Him. Church hurt comes up when we place unrealistic expectations on the church. It is not a perfect place but a place designed to bring us to maturity through the Word and fellowship. That’s why its chosen. Because the world does not and cannot give you this. I have noticed that I’m developing a sense of gratitude for my church these days because it has and continues to forge character in me. It has become the place I can function more freely. It has become the place that I am becoming more open to being loved correctly and each time we gather I find myself savoring each moment.
Church hurt comes up when we place unrealistic expectations on the church. It is not a perfect place but a place designed to bring us to maturity through the Word and fellowship.
Do not be swayed by the belief that church can be experienced in isolation. Do not hold on to unrealistic expectations of your church. Salvation ought to bring you to a place. Salvation does not end with the sinner’s prayer. Salvation begins when you find the right place to become who God called you to be,when you’re advancing, when you’re beginning to feel loved, when you are giving out that same love, when you begin to recognize the diversity and uniqueness of each member of the Body of Christ. Don’t believe the lie that you can serve God at home. Home is where the family of other believers dwell, and just like you, these other believers are imperfect people in need of the Savior and the washing of the water by His Word.
I encourage you today with these words; to find your chosen place -the church of the living God that feeds your soul and allows you to function in your unique purpose. I encourage you to seek it if you desire it. You can trust God that He will never, ever withhold any good thing from you. If you desire that place of fellowship, belonging, love, acceptance and of course very Godly vibes, ask Him in plain language and from a sincere heart and see Him lead you to that chosen place. I’m praying that you truly experience this because it exists and it is beautiful.
Until next time, keep believing that you are loved and accepted and you were never made to be alone.
Je vais repeter;You were never made to be alone.
God bless you and thank you for reading.
Behold(a wonder, worthy of admiration) how good(profitable) and pleasant(beautiful) it is for brethren(believers) to dwell together in unity(delighting in each other, be of one mind, promoting each other’s welfare)